This changed my life when I first saw it. It’s one of my faves. A couple years ago I snapped a bunch of beautiful butchxfemme photos from lesbian books I have and shared them here, but I know I missed this one, which was a terrible oversight.
Pal men are taught to throw tables across the room if they’re angry and punch people who mildly disrespect them— all of these things are emotional responses they’re just incongruous with what we consider emotional to be i.e. a sniffling teenage girl. Men are super emotional. They’re selfishly emotional. They’re so emotional that they *have* to let any living creature around them feel the pain they feel inside even for a sec.
almost every single man I’ve met in recent years has been into rough sex or kinky sex/preferred it which is terrifying, and many men will have rough sex with a woman as the default and let me tell you having a strange man you’re having sex with for the first time try to choke you or throw you around in the bedroom or hold your neck down is terrifying and these are like Feminist ™ Liberal ™ Woke ™ men who buy into all the bdsm garbage liberal feminist rhetoric although they also don’t care deep down in their blackened souls
can straight people just, like… shut the fuck up? please? just for five minutes? please? please just shut up?
this article is literally written by a gay man. who is openly married to his partner. and if you read it, it talks about how this movie is in fact too bland and unrelatable for today’s queer teens.
“A milestone that feels overdue–the first mainstream teen comedy foregrounding a gay character–may have been outpaced by real life. Can a love story centered around a gay teen who is very carefully built to seem as straight as possible appeal to a generation that’s boldly reinventing gender and sexuality on its own terms?”
like. there’s definitely the valid argument to be made that just normalizing depictions of gay romance and gay protagonists is very important, because representation is still not what it should be, by a long shot. but this article is about another issue altogether, and makes some points which are worth considering… namely that this movie doesn’t go far enough in providing that representation to today’s teens, but seems aimed more at a previous generation.
but so like. can we not just make blanket assumptions like this, as a community? can we not leap to conclusions without taking five seconds to educate ourselves? honestly.
BLESS THIS ADDITION
interesting how the notes are full of comments from people trying to delegitimize this openly gay man’s valid points about this film by painting him as an “out of touch straightie that just doesnt understand what the community needs” but sure, okay
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