cishet: this is literally why people hate gays. this is why homophobia happens. this is why gays go through systematic and institutionalized oppression. you wanna know why your kind gets murdered?? look at the tumblr post you made on june 4th, 2018-
I mean sure gays have it hard since they get murdered and all that but aces get left out from memes and I’m no oppression expert but I think that sounds pretty much the same
Listen. I’ve been on this site for a long time. I was around back when the LGBT community majority here was was a complete shit show of basically ace and pan are the only valid orientations, otherwise you’re a regressive bigot.
Do you have any fucking idea how harmful it is to be a young teenager and see things like “hearts not parts”, “pan people see past gender!” and “pan people love people for their heart!”? Do you know how hurtful it is to be struggling with whether or not you like men and see plastered everywhere that only pan people love people for who they are? That lesbians and gay men are only interested in people for their genitals? And to see this paraded around as progressive and right?
It’s incredibly fucked up. It fucked me up so much. To think that if I didn’t allow men to be a part of my life I was an awful person. To think that it was transphobic to be a lesbian or a gay man, because those identities were only interested in gender.
You can’t just excuse people saying these things with “oh they didn’t mean to be ____phobic” because it doesn’t matter. They did something offensive and they need to own up to it and change their wording and think hard about how they view gay people to have even thought these things in the first place.
And I know what spurred this doesn’t seem like a big deal, but this issue is and this wording and phrasing needs to stop. I thankfully don’t see it around as much, but it still goes on, obviously. When I google pansexual some of the first results are “hearts not parts” graphics. And look, there’s some more biphobia and transphobia right next to it!
Every time you imply pan is the only orientation capable of truly loving their partner and see past their gender you’re hurting young questioning gay kids.
Please, I’m begging you all, especially my followers who are pan, do not let these phrases continue. Do not them continue to be the norm to describe pansexuality. Please stop it wherever you see it.
a het: you know, this is why some people fucking hate your species. you are no better than the cishets who murder your kind i hope you realize this. don’t fight hate with hate. i’m an ally and support the LGBT with all my heart but some of you guys just need to choke and
Me: the q slur has been gentrified and casualized despite being the still most used anti-lgbt slur, most likely because of said casualization allowing homophobes and transphobes to feel like they can use it without repercutions.
Some fool neck deep on the mogai bullshit: yOU GRIMMY BIGOT Apope! Kwyrbigot!“
Preferred: “gay” (adj.); “gay man” or “lesbian” (n.); “gay person/people”
Please use gay or lesbian to describe people attracted to members of the same sex. Because of the clinical history of the word “homosexual,” it is aggressively used by anti-gay extremists to suggest that gay people are somehow diseased or psychologically/emotionally disordered – notions discredited by the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Association in the 1970s.
Please avoid using “homosexual” except in direct quotes. Please also avoid using “homosexual” as a style variation simply to avoid repeated use of the word “gay.” The Associated Press, The New York Times and The Washington Post restrict use of the term “homosexual”
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